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How To Stop Seeking Approval From Others

by Alivia Nyhan
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Who doesn’t like to be complimented? At some point we have all needed the approval of others and this to some extent is normal behavior, since we are social beings, however there are times when certain emotions stop being healthy and become pathological. The need for approval begins to become pathological when all our efforts are directed towards this and an obsession is generated, which is very easy to ignore until you find yourself stuck. That is why at FastlyHealwe want to give you some tips to stop seeking approval from others .

Symptoms of a person seeking approval

If you want to know if you are a person who needs the approval and constant consent of others, check the following list of symptoms:

  • You can’t say no , these people subordinate their own desires to please others.
  • You are friendly even if you disagree with other opinions. It is important that you defend your point of view.
  • You change your mind as a gesture of kindness towards the other.
  • You feel anxious or sad when others don’t share your views.
  • Your emotions vary according to external opinion.
  • Loss of naturalness and spontaneity for fear of being rejected.

Don’t try to please everyone

In addition to being a tiring practice, it does not generate any benefit in the long run, why? because it is something impossible. Trying to please everyone will only bring you emotional wear, you must understand that we are all different not only physically but also in terms of tastes and preferences for this we cannot always like each other, so stop seeking the approval of others .

You are important

You must understand that your opinion is also valid, the opinions of others are not the absolute truth . Stop believing more in what others think of you, surround yourself with people who know who you really are, this is the best affirmation you can have in moments when you seek approval and cannot find it. But you must also work on your emotions, how? In the article 8 good tips to control emotions we give you some tools to do so.

Remember that we are all valuable, it is not about achievements or successes, the important thing is who you are as a person and the values ​​that define you, not what you do or what you have achieved.

Disapproval does not mean rejection

We have a tendency to take criticism towards ourselves, when in fact it is towards a particular opinion, point of view or taste. For example, a person might not approve of your views on politics or your tastes in a movie, but that does not mean that they are rejecting you as a person.

Those who need approval confuse the behavior with the person or what would be called the “I” if you are wrong it does not mean that you are a failure or clumsy, you simply make mistakes because you are human .

Be authentic and make decisions

There is nothing more liberating than being yourself, being different does not mean that you are better or worse, to the extent that you learn to deal with these thoughts you can free yourself from them. In addition, this will help you make the right decisions and not to please others when you find yourself in this situation ask yourself, based on what am I making the decision? And what do I really want? Leaving aside what others think.

Take care of your self-esteem

Although it is normal for the opinions of others to influence what we think of ourselves, they are not everything and when we depend on praise to make decisions or they condition our behavior, it is when there is a problem.

If you find yourself in this situation, you should ideally visit a psychologist , as he or she will provide you with the tools to get to the root of your need for approval and the best way to address it. Remember that working on self-esteem is not about feeling better, but about getting better, that is, as you learn to deal with your emotions, you will maintain a balance in them.

This article is merely informative, at FastlyHeal .com we do not have the power to prescribe medical treatments or make any type of diagnosis. We invite you to see a doctor in the case of presenting any type of condition or discomfort.

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